Stop caring about what others think

It’s frustrating that I still find myself caring about what other people think of me. I badly wish I didn’t care, but I do. However, I care MUCH less than I used to, so that’s good progress. And I’ll never stop working on it. I think partly we are born quite empathetic (or not), so in a way it comes with the territory. Even if you’re quite strong willed or opinionated, being human and caring about others can leave you open to getting hurt. I know plenty of people who don’t give a s*#t about what anyone thinks, it’s not really in my nature not to care but I do think it’d be nice sometimes!

If you’ve been hurt by the comments or opinion of others – you have two ways you can deal with that. You can let it consume you and zap you of your confidence, OR, you can gain strength from not letting it stop you. We need to try and not let hate from others stop us from loving ourselves. We can’t let it stop us from making our way in the world or achieving whatever goals we are setting out to achieve. I do love the saying “what others think of you is none of your business” …. Very wise words.

Depending on your personality though, it can take years to learn to brush off what others think of you. But never stop working on it, because people will always judge, or make assumptions, or try to put us down. We need to be strong enough to just let it go.

Here’s a few things to think about if you’re ready to rise above others’ negativity:

• People who say negative or horrible things about us probably don’t think much of themselves.
• Always remember that it’s your own opinion that really counts.
• Learn to truly love yourself, and the opinion of others will be irrelevant.
• Be at complete peace with yourself, this will make you stronger than anyone else’s negative comments or thoughts.

And like everything else, we all have the choice to stop any negative talk going on in our heads. Wake up in the morning with only positivity and happiness in your world. Remind yourself that life is short and you don’t have time for negativity or hate. Remind yourself of how wonderful you are, and do this all day long if you have to. Do this over and over and you’ll start to really believe it. Which is great, cos it’s true!

We can choose to let the hateful energy of others replay in our heads over and over, or we can chose to stop it in its tracks and replace it with peaceful and positive thoughts and be thankful for all the good we have.

Life is tough sometimes, and sometimes we need to make amends, or apologise, or improve ourselves in some way. But we’re only human, and you don’t have to hate yourself while you’re apologising, or working to improve little aspects in your life. Absolutely no one is perfect, we all stuff up, but never feel bad for being human.

Be a good friend to yourself, surround yourself with wonderful positive people who help build you up, not tear you down. Remember, life’s too short for anything less!

Have a wonderful day!

Paula