Start saying NO!

If you have found you’ve put on some weight lately, or are struggling to lose weight, this could be partly due to an inability to say “NO!”

It’s time to start getting more comfortable refusing unwanted food. You know what I mean, we’ve all been pressured to eat something we didn’t really want, and I’m sure most of us have given in just to be polite.

Call it willpower, or self-control, or discipline, doesn’t matter what you call it, but you need to practise saying no. Many (probably most) social events seem to revolve around food, and often HEAPS of it. We seem to be constantly surrounded by food, and worse, many of our friends and family seem to enjoy offering us food in large, calorie-dense amounts!

It’s taken me years to practise it, but I’m finally feeling comfortable saying no to anyone offering me extra calories that I don’t want or need. It’s hard, I understand! Constantly refusing food or having to explain to people that you’re trying to improve your eating habits can be really awkward, it shouldn’t be, but for some reason it is. Some people feel rude refusing food, or feel that if someone’s made them something they are obliged to eat it. Not me, not anymore!

Think of it like this, you’ve been great all week, you’ve worked hard and been super disciplined. And hopefully on top of that you’re seeing some great results, and feeling amazing and proud. Then, on the weekend, you’re catching up your family who are shoving treats under your nose, and possibly even giving you a bit of “come on, you can just have one” action. Other comments might be “you don’t need to lose any more weight, you need to eat” or “come on, live a little” and so on. My inner bitch says that many of these comments come from people who probably want to lose some weight themselves, but don’t have the discipline or commitment that you do. So in order to make themselves feel better about their habits, they are happy trying to “fatten you up” or at least see you eat some crap. Not all of them, but definitely some!

You are always in control of what you eat, no one else, ever!! It’s your body, your goals, and your brain making the decisions. You need to stick to your guns, keep your head held high, remember your goals, and say “no, thank you.” And if anyone judges you for practising discipline and staying on track to reach your goals, then you need new friends, or family (can you exchange family members??). Remember, there’s a pretty good chance their comments are not coming from a good place.

I understand that sometimes people are genuinely concerned about a loved one or friend possibly losing too much weight, or maybe even needing some support with an eating issue/disorder, but often I think it’s safe to say people like us to eat with them to make them feel a little better. Might sound harsh, but it’s what I truly believe.

I think the best way to start feeling comfortable saying no to others, is to tell them from the start that you’re attempting to change your eating habits and won’t be eating anything that you don’t want or need. Remember, it’s your choice and your goals, and no one should make you feel bad for staying strong and on track. And if they do, dump them!

Eye on the prize!!

Have a great day,

Paula